Thursday, May 5, 2011

Skinny Family Members All Around

Does anyone else have them? The folks in your life who have never had to worry about weight issues? My family is stacked, and I'm certainly not one of the lucky ones.

I spent some time with my sister today, and I probably shouldn't say this, but I was just wracked with jealousy over her size at several points during the day. She drinks two to five Starbucks frappuccinos a day and has somehow lost about 10 pounds (from a HEFTY--to her--125 to a NORMAL--to 5'7) in the last couple of months (still drinking the same amount of Starbucks and not really exercising). And don't even get me started on the food she eats (but I will say that there is lots of candy and BAD carbs in the mix). Ugh! And she was trying to give me weight-loss advice. So frustrating (although I didn't tell her that)! Please don't get me wrong: I love my sister, and we have loads of fun together...but I just wish I could quash the envy-inspired thoughts because I know that jealousy doesn't help either of us or our relationship.

I really think I could handle the situation quite well if we were not related and did not see one another a lot. Does anyone else have 'that skinny family member' or 'that thin friend' that you are around all of the time or very frequently? What do you do about the situation, or what is your self talk to handle it?

I hope I'm not the only jerkfish out there who thinks this way. :(


  1. I struggle with this too! Out of 4 daughters I was really the only one that struggled with my weight growing up. I was always on a "diet" watching my sisters eat and drink whatever they wanted...and they ate junk food and stayed skinny while I ate salads and gained weight. It was very hard...and I always struggled with feelings of jealousy and frustration.

  2. I have the opposite problem...all of my family members are obese and I am the odd one out now...a black sheep i guess.

  3. LOL...I can relate. I'm Asian...and at my church I think the median weight is 110lbs for women and 150 lbs for men. My dad struggles to keep 130lbs on his frame. My parents were both nick named chopstick before they married because frankly they looked as skinny as "chopsticks". My 104 lbs sister craves grapefruit and blueberries. My mom has a cow when she passes the 140 lb mark. Yes its hard because my friend and family cannot understand my struggles or their origin! Because of my metabolism, I thought I might have been switched with the wrong Asian family at the hospital, but then I've given birth to two kids with incredible metabolism and who were born health nuts....Girl I feel your pain.

  4. Thanks, guys. I'm glad I'm not the only one who faces this dynamic.

  5. This is so hard to deal with! I now get glares and snide comments from the other angle. I'm near the skinnest at extended family/family functions. I know a few of my cousins were putting needles in a voodoo doll for my weight gain. Now the comments are, "but are you healthy?" etc....just looking for something to pick at. I did lose one friendship to weight loss entirely. The girl was about my size, and although it was never said, I know that is why it happened.