Monday, January 11, 2010

How to Take a Compliment 101

Two posts in one day!

Gen mentioned a compliment episode on her blog, and it made me think that I need to sign up for the class on taking compliments too! I haven't had many people notice my weight change because a) I haven't lost as much as most bandsters (40 pounds); b) I've changed jobs recently (so no one there knows the 'before' me); and c) most of the people who are close to me see me fairly frequently (or haven't seen me in a while--some even before I gained since I was away for school and in hiding when I was home)--if you see someone daily or weekly, it is is more difficult to notice changes, it seems.

Anyhow, the other night, my significant other and I were watching the Rose Bowl (he's a HUGE Bama fan) with another couple who we've gone to games with (over a year ago when money wasn't so tight). Well, it has been about that long since we've seen them, and the wife mentioned that I looked like I had lost a lot of weight and looked great. I can't remember what I said, but I bumbled through the whole thing and sounded quite ridiculous, I'm sure. I even felt the need to apologize to her because I felt like I didn't take the compliment well (not that I said anything snotty or annoying, but I surely could've handed it better). Interestingly enough, my understanding is that she had a bypass several years ago. I'm not certain of this--and though I don't want my band news broadcast to his friend group, I would probably be tempted to tell her under different circumstances if I knew for sure she'd had surgery (no judgment there--one of my biggest obstacles in telling people!).

Anyhow, sign me up for the class, Gen, and tell me when it starts!!!


  1. I know how you feel, though the person who always lets me know she can tell my weight loss, is my MOM, bless her heart. I haven't lost enough for most to notice. Like you said, most see me regularly & it isn't as apparent to them. Don't worry if the weight loss is slow coming, my Doctor prefers the weight loss to be slow.

    Debi, hawaiiboundbandster

  2. It is lovely when people take the time to notice....I am sure you handled it just fine :)

  3. It does feel good to have someone notice your accomplishments!

  4. know whatcha mean, I have lost 33lbs. and the day to day people haven't really noticed, but I just did a funny blog post yesterday where I have been getting comments about my new haircut...which I don't have...ahhh my face is getting thinner!

  5. Yeah I always fumble over compliments too! Still nice to get them though!

    All the best
    Em :)

  6. Amanda, evidently we have the same things going on...for months people were asking about my hair of all things!!! :)

    And yes to all: it is nice to have people notice.